Q: What if I have been raped and don't want to report it?
A: Reporting is always the survivor's choice. By calling the crisis hotline you will be able to speak with an advocate about your available options. If you choose not to report the rape to the police it is important you talk to someone who understands what you are going through.
Q: I have been raped and I feel afraid all the time. Is there something wrong with me?
A: No! It is normal to feel afraid. Rape is a violent crime and causes emotional distress, fear, anxiety and sometimes depression. It is important to talk to someone who understands what you are going through.
Q: I was raped awhile ago and can't seem to get over it. Is this normal?
A: Yes, this is normal. Rape is not an event that happens and is forgotten. Rape affects every aspect of your life. Every rape is different, and each survivor may experience many different feelings. Some of the emotions include:
Fear of crowds Embarrassment Fear of strangers Depression Fear of others finding out Mistrust in people
Q: Someone I care about was raped. How can I help them?
A: Supporting your friend is important. Sometimes survivors wait a long time before they tell anyone about the rape. This happens often and does not mean that the survivor is making it up. Whether the rape happened a long time ago or a few minutes ago, the pain is real. Your friend needs your support. What you say and how you react are very important. The following are some "do's" for providing support.
- Do listen carefully to what is shared with you.
- Do assist her or him in getting the help they need.
- Do say that it is never the survivor's fault.
- Do tell your friend that going along with the rapist does not mean giving the rapist permission.
- Do tell your friend that he or she did everything right.
- Do tell your friend; "Whatever you are feeling is okay".